Back Caress Guided Meditation: Step 5
Back Caress Guided Meditation: Step 5
The Back Caress Meditation includes the entire posterior length of the body, from head to foot. There is also more movement on the part of the giving partner than any of the preceding meditations. With this and the remaining meditations, we recommend that you are both nude. Vulnerability begins here. Remember that there are key differences between a caress and a massage. The focus is on the surface of the skin rather than the underlining muscles. The pressure, rhythm, and length of your touch will be a unique expression of your own creativity. Feel free to flow and improvise around the guided instructions. Notice how your rising sexual interest adds nuances to your sensations. Experience your arousal with curiosity and restraint, allowing the energy to build and deepen your powers of observation, both of yourself and the contour, texture, and temperature of your partner’s skin. Recall what it means when you say, “I have your back.” Have massage oil available for this meditation.
These seven meditations are designed to guide you through the progressive stages of physical connection, beginning with safety and relaxation to heightened phases of erotic arousal. After taking time and taking turns to complete each step, we are confident you and your partner will no longer view sex merely as something you occasionally do, but rather as a source of generating creative energy. What we offer is a concrete and time-tested tool to increase desire and establish an ecstatic foundation for healing trauma and restoring connection.
General Instructions
This is a special time to be with your partner and permit yourself to be expressive and sensual. Although these caress meditations can be done in any order, we recommended that you initially practice them in sequence. Decide who is going to be the active partner and the receiving partner. Afterward, you will switch roles. Create a soothing environment that establishes safety and deep relaxation. Dim the lights, draw the curtains. Silence your phones, lock the door. Set aside at least 30 minutes with the option to take longer if the meditation launches you into deeper exploration. At the end of each turn, take a moment to share your impressions and feelings. Refrain from criticism, sarcasm, or judgment, even if your partner did not follow the guided instructions exactly. Meditation is not about doing it perfectly. Erotic arousal is a type of hypnotic trance of heightened vulnerability. Speak kindly while occupying this tender space. Tactfully explain what you did and did not like. Be specific. Use descriptions such as ticklish, comforting, hot, cold, silky, coarse. Take turns speaking and listening just as you took turns receiving and giving touch.
This meditation was adapted from “Touching for Pleasure: A 12 Step Program for Sexual Enhancement,” by Adele P. Kennedy and Susan Dean, Ph.D. The music is by Chris Collins, [http://indiemusicbox.com][0] We hope you enjoy it.
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